Dating outside marriage
Affairs are about excitement, being alive, seduction, flirtation, love, affection, sexual bliss, lust, caution, eroticism, fantasy, danger, adventure, exploration and the determined refusal to grow old gracefully.There is also evidence that the more permissive the attitudes of a country, the longer marriages last.Just as the Pill opened up premarital sex in the Sixties, the internet is opening up a whole new culture of affairs among married people.Sex has become a major leisure activity of our time, accessible to everyone, married or not, rich and poor.
Marital love and passion only rarely provide an equally rich source of the exalted feelings, transports of delight and misery associated with love and romance.
Yet marriage is a protected and respected institution in these countries, where families can function and flourish without compromise.
And let’s not ignore the past in drawing up a new 21st‑century road map of adultery.
In France an affair is dubbed an aventure, free of insinuations of betrayal.
It is estimated that a quarter of men and women are enjoying casual flings and affairs at any one time.
This killjoy attitude frames affairs as deviant escapism and fantasies without merit for people who have failed to grow up.